I am NOT a fighter!

Good morning world.  I am not a fighter.  Meaning when I get upset with my husband, or he gets upset with me, I do not fight.  We might get angry with each other over "stuff".  I just do not fight.  It is funny, well sort of, the boys have said before something about us fighting.  We really do not, much.  I do get angry at times.

Growing up, I was not allowed to get mad or angry.  It was not okay.  Most of it was geared towards my brother.  He would pester like little brothers do.  The problem was I would hold it in, hold it in, hold it in till I would explode.  I have known this about me for many years.

So what do I do with this knowledge?  Now mostly I get angry when my feelings are hurt and I do not deal with the hurt feelings.  Then it goes straight to anger.  So what do I do?  Sometimes, I will talk to whomever the hurt feelings have come from, usually my husband or the boys.  Sometimes, I wait.

 Not a good thing for me to do.

The Bible is clear about this.  I posted the scripture before. " 26 “In your anger do not sin”[a]: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,"  Ephesians 4:26 NIV

I forgot how many times the Bible references about anger and related topics.  It is a lot!

Let's say Patrick says something that hurts my feelings, I talk to him, and nothing is resolved.  What then?  Do I stay angry?  Sometimes.  Sometimes, most of the time, I show grace and mercy and forgive.

The Bible says "33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."  Ephesians 5:33 NIV

It is difficult to respect Patrick if I am angry with him.  My prayer today is to get rid of anger, as it is not of God.  And to show grace and mercy in my home.

Be blessed and be a blessing,

Just some of my thoughts and actions,

Elizabeth