Good morning world! How hard is it for you to be confrontational? Most of the time I think I am pretty good at it. I mean, I have no problems with confronting my children when needed. Or even my husband when there is something pressing, or I am very angry. Although if I am very angry, I usually will not speak until I have calmed down a bit. Afraid of what might come out of my mouth, I think.
I have a couple of very close friends I can go to with the truth at any time. Not that we have had many problems to confront.
But over the years, at different times in my life, I find it difficult to go to someone with my perception of the truth for various reasons. One reason is I do not want to hurt anyone's feelings. The other reason, I think, is I do not want to lose that relationship. Nor do I want them to think badly of me.
Lately, however, this does not seem to be the case as much. A couple of days ago, I was able to go to an extended family member about some concerns I had. It was not easy. It was necessary in order to have an honest relationship and for that matter to continue in the relationship.
And for me, it does not matter anymore how what I have to say is received. In the past it did matter. I still wanted them to like me, not be angry with me, or what ever. I still do not want to hurt feelings.
I am finding more and more if I do not take the initiative, then I end up with some unforgivness and bitterness. Those 2 things do nothing to or for the other person. Just bad for me.
"13 Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you." Colossians 3:13
Are not relationships fun?
Be blessed and be a blessing,
Just some of my thoughts and actions,
Elizabeth
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